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Ok, before you get angry seeing the title of this post. I’m not some religious zelot running around telling women not to get treated for Vaginismus. On the contrary,this is to bring to light a belief that I couldn’t believe exists. I was going through my e-mail in my gmail account and came upon a comment someone had posted on another blog. This individual said that Vaginismus is created by God to keep our population down. According to this person, us women, should accept our role as nuns or celibate and be thankful.
According to this person, trying to treat Vaginismus is a waste and is sinful.

So I guess, my sucess with having a son, was a waste? How??? I have a beautiful boy and a gift. How is that a waste? I’m sinning. I guess then I have a place in H*** because I went and got treatment. If you see people like this or hear things, please don’t listen to them. If you have this condition, it is not a thing that destines you to celibacy or becoming a nun. This condition is very treatable and you won’t be going to hell. Just tell the person who says this that they need to do some soul searching and become more educated. This kind of comment shows how ignorant and narrow minded and uneducated they are.


{November 15, 2010}   A True Gift

I gave birth to a beautiful 7 pound and 20 1/2 inch boy. His name is Colin. He is a beautiful boy and a gift. After years without being able to have sex with my husband I thought that this dream would never be achieved. The pregnancy wasn’t easy with my pelvic floor problems. Unlike most pregnant women, I experienced contractions (consistently and monitorable) for a month before delivering. This isn’t like the norm at all. I also had a cathedar for about a week because I had to strain in the bathtub to go and it was painful.
I had a cesarian, upon recomendation of my physical therapist. At first when the word c-section was brought up it was a big no. Then with all the things that occured at my end, I had to put it into consideration. I’m glad. My son is here and while I will never know what delivering a baby naturally is like. My baby is here and I don’t have to worry about perenial nerve damage, which with my pelvic floor condition is a definate concern. The Perenial Nerve Damage is from what I read a very painful condition that can happen during delivery.
For those whom have Vaginismus. Don’t give up hope. Keep the hope. Believe in yourself and respect yourself. It can happen. It is very achievable. The gift is well worth the work you put into getting there.

et cetera